Extremely tall women are often treated as if they are freakishly tall or Amazonian, as if their height is some sort of mistake or genetic mutation.
How can you get thicker skin about your height when society – and many men – are too intimidated to date a tall woman? For anyone who deals with sex or appearance issues, I always encourage them to be disciplined about getting some private naked time at home.
Spend a few minutes every day – at least for a month or so – looking in the mirror at your body, and complimenting parts of your body out loud. Some tall women give themselves permission to wear heels when they’re out with a man who is the same height or shorter, but I know many women who still cater more to men’s feelings and wear flats just in case he feels uncomfortable with the height discrepancy. It is crucial that you wear whatever shoes and clothing you want to wear, because you need to start every relationship focusing on your needs and desires – not the other way around.
The two traits men are ultimately most attracted to in women are happiness and self-confidence, so it’s important for women’s own self-esteem – and their dating chances – that they feel confident and proud of their body.
The key for very tall women is to figure out which men are open to dating a very tall woman, and which ones are not.
In other words, tall women may have to put themselves out there more than other women who are less intimidating.
The clincher, of course, is to develop thick skin and to not take disinterest or brush-offs from men personally. This is one of the most important exercises that can truly change how you feel about yourself and your body.
After you’ve heard your new guy’s response, feel free to state your own position – another indicator of confidence. I’ve never really understood what the big deal is, because I’m happy with my body.” Men love women who like themselves, and confronting this issue directly allows you to remind him that you are clear, know what you want, and – most importantly – like yourself enough to stand up for the things you believe in!
At the end of the day, tall women make terrific friends, family members, and romantic partners.
When we talk about tall women, there’s what many people think of as ‘sexy-tall,’ the range of height where women are, say, 5’8” or 5’9”.
These women have the best of all possible worlds: They’re tall to the point that it’s easier to stay thin or carry weight well, but not so tall that they face the stigma of men not wanting want to date a tall woman.
For example, in your online dating profile, don’t be shy about making your height a focus of your profile. – about your physical attributes when you’ve got no investment, rather than anticipating a date but later being let down if he’s not interested in you.