When anyone is faced with a traumatic incident in their life, which most people with anxiety have had more than their fair share of, the memory (if not properly dealt with) can end up stored in part of the limbic system of the brain that the mind uses to determine if we are at ‘risk.’ You can find out more about that here.The memory is stored in a completely different manner and region of the brain in comparison to an everyday memory that gets filed away.It does not stop the thinking of hundreds of different worst-case scenarios.
The one relief people with anxiety tend to get from their anxiety is when they’re allowed to be in their place of comfort with nothing major changing around them.When they’re faced with a big change and uprooting, it can take them a lot longer to settle back down and establish that zone again.That’s an anxious person’s every day, and it’s tiring.Remember that next time you’re pushing someone with anxiety to be more ‘productive.’For someone existing in such a hyper-alert state a situation that doesn’t seem that overwhelming (e.g.Your support doesn’t go unmissed – no matter how subtle you may think it’s been.
Part of anxiety is the constant over thinking, but to really understand this we need to understand where the over thinking stems from.
They understand that, they understand their irrationality; they understand you’ve not done some things you would’ve liked to because they couldn’t.
They’re not oblivious to what it takes to support them.
They are always on alert, their mind is very rarely settled, and their body is always ready to fight or flight. Situations that people without anxiety can just breeze through are more tiring for those with anxiety.
Ever had a stressful work week, where every day you woke up thinking “wow, I really hope I get a break soon”?
Just remember to have a little more patience and understanding for those with anxiety. Part of managing anxiety is controlling the inner monologue that comes with it.